How to Connect to Spirit Guides

If you have been noticing strange synchronicites like the number 11:11 or a particular animal hanging around you like a lady bug, then you probably have spirit guides and angels trying to reach out to you and let you know that they’re around if you need them.

The general rule of a spirit guide, whether they’re an ancestor, angel, alien or animal totem, is that they can give you nudges, but they can’t intrude or impose on you. They’re not a toxic entity which will infringe on your boundaries to brow-beat you into letting them in (kind of like a narcissistic relationship) and they always respect your free will.

This means that they can’t fully connect to you unless you meet them halfway.

How do you meet your guides for the first time?

The initial key to connection is that you need to shed your fears. If you’re connecting to guides, they’ll be light beings who’re part of your support team and only want whatever is best for you. At any point if you get scared, they will back off. If something doesn’t back off, then it isn’t a guide but you should know that you are still in control and have the authority to tell them to leave.

Keep an open mind about who your guides might be. They might not look the way you expect, so try to shed expectations.

The next step is to create a safe physical space. Find a peaceful spot and spend some time clearing it out energetically and physically at the same time. Literally clean it from top to bottom. Make it comfortable. When that is done, use music or singing bowls or drums or singing to change the sound resonance of the space. YouTube has a huge variety of free meditation music you can use for this purpose if you don’t have the funds to invest in this just yet. Once that’s done, you can light a white candle and burn some white sage or an incense stick. Again, this is to fill the space with cleansing energy.

Once you have prepared the physical space and found a comfortable place to sit down, you are now reading to either close your eyes, or soften your gaze as though daydreaming and allow your inner vision to take over.

In your mind, establish a launching place. It can literally be a familiar landscape such as your front porch, or it can be a clearing in the middle of a forest. Whatever you choose as your starting point, know that you can always come back to it whenever you’re ready.

From the starting place, establish a time of day or night and ensure that you have ample light-source to navigate by such as a bright moon over the desert, lamps in a public garden or perhaps an open roaring bonfire surrounded by tall trees. For the sake of practice, this visual is going to be in a forest clearing with a campfire in the middle. Feel free to change this if you want to repeat the exercise at a later date and make it more personal to yourself.

Take a short walk towards the source of light, noticing that others are already gathered in that area. They may be standing around, or seated on logs. Some of them are chatting among themselves, while others are in quiet contemplation. Go and join them, taking a seat on the last spare log beside the campfire.

As you’re seated around the fire, notice the other creatures and people also gathered in this area. You may recognise some of them, while others are new to you. Feel free to observe what they look like.

At this point you may wish to leave the forest and walk back to your house, or you may choose to engage in light conversation with some of the guides gathered around before you do so. Whatever makes you comfortable. Feel free to ask for names from the guides. Notice how the presence of each guide resonates for you on a soul level.

You can repeat this exercise whenever you want to get to know who your guides are and get used to their energies. Your guides should be familiar in some way to you, whether at an energetic level or on a visual level. Even if they happen to be alien in nature, there should be something about them which makes sense to you.

If you need any further assistance with this journey, feel free to seek out my services.

How to Understand Dark Magic

There’s a lot of freedom in the pagan community to “do as thou will” in your personal practice. But how does different types of magic affect your energy, and where exactly is the line between “light” and “dark” magic?

Unlike dogmatic religion, pagan practices are not based on a set of rules which have to be followed by all devotees to the letter. Instead, an emphasis on personal responsibility and autonomy is the basis for spirituality.

Black magic is not to be confused with our shadow-selves. That aspect of our personality is supposed to be there in order to teach us about our own inner-complexity and to make us more understanding of others and humble about our own failings.

This article is not about shadow work.

This article is about performing magic which affects others (and ultimately yourself) in a negative way.

So where exactly is the line?

The key difference between positive magic and negative magic is purely that: one contributes to the collective and the other takes away.

Don’t worry, I’m about to explain that a bit more in-depth.

Dark magic is designed to take away another being’s personal power and sovereignty. It is purpose-built to impose the will of the practitioner over another’s and to either render them helpless, or to steal something from them.

As a practice, it usually involves taking something in order to perform the ritual. For example, there is a variety of blood magic out there, some of which is negative and some of which is positive. That might seem strange to you, but if you think about someone using a drop of their own blood to add life-force to a spell, that is very different from someone cutting off a chicken’s head to do their spell.

Blood, hair, clothes and other highly personal materials can be gifted for a spell, or they can be stolen. The energy entwined with how a spell-caster comes to possess an item will affect the overall energy of the spell.

Basically, even if your “intention” is “good” in your own opinion, if you use material which was not freely given for the purpose of that spell, the whole spell will be negative.

At the same time, if you use your own blood or other personal items to cast a spell with removes another person’s free will or which inflicts harm upon them, that is also a dark spell.

Stealing energy is a big no-no and it can seriously affect your personal karma as well as your ability to manifest or attract positivity into your life.

Ultimately, a material is neutral (even blood) but HOW you obtain it, and what your INTENTIONS are will determine the energy of a spell, and as with all aspects of witchcraft, you have to take personal responsibility for that.

Dragon Spirit Guides

Can Dragons be spirit guides and how do you know if you have connected with one? Which dimension do they live in and what is the best way to connect with your dragon guide?

We all have spirit guides in some form or another. Some people have alien guides because they’re part of the star-seed collective, while others have more traditional spirit guides such as totem animals and wise masters who previously lived the human existence.

It is becoming more common to have a diversity of guides outside of the “norm” where it might have been an Angel, or a Native American shaman in the past, now we see other kinds of light-beings, aliens and inter-dimensional guides.

So where do the Dragons fit into this picture? They’ve certainly been around for a very long time, although not always in a positive light. In traditional lore, they play the villain more than the hero, but we all know that many things were demonised by the Church in the dark ages.

The Druids had a more harmonious relationship with all things reptilian, whether snakes or dragons or lizards. Indeed, snakes were seen as animals of wisdom and eloquence as well as healers in Greek lore. When someone talks about how Saint Patrick “drove the snakes out of Ireland” they’re not referring to actual animals, but rather the Druids.

Dragons are part of the Astral realm and fall into the category of elemental spirits, although it’s not as simple as that. Depending on which element is dominant for you in your astrological chart will determine which sort of dragon you can connect with and how you should connect to them.

There are air dragons, fire dragons, water dragons and earth dragons. My personal dragon guide is a star dragon in the air element which makes a lot of sense because I have a lot of planets in the air signs of my astrology chart. For another person, they may find that a dragon guide is a cave dragon.

Whichever form they come through in is something which will resonate with you because your energy is aligned.

A Dragon is a powerful being and not one to “command” in any way, not that you could possibly “command” a Spirit Guide any more than they can override your free will. A Spirit Guide relationship is on an equal footing of mutual respect and autonomy working together towards a higher purpose. Dragons are no different.

Characteristics of a Dragon

Understanding the characteristics of a Dragon will help you to connect to them, as well as being open-minded about what element they’re connected to and not having too many pre-conceived notions.

The star dragon I know (I won’t use his name or claim that he belongs to me because he’s his own independent being) is a sparkling black who looks just like a starry sky at night. He can blend in with the sky and glide silently through the air so that even though he might be enormous, he can pass unperceived by the unobservant.

An earth dragon might appear like their scales are crusted in limestone, a water dragon might be able to glide through the water like they’re liquid themselves and then the fire dragons can be living fire in their own right. One of my favourite things is to gaze into a fireplace and watch the salamanders play within the flames.

The Essence of Dragon Guides

Whatever form your dragon comes in, they all have one big thing in common: an enormous heart of gold.

Dragons are heart-chakra elementals, regardless of which element they resonate with. The “treasure” usually associated with dragons was never material wealth, and the quest to vanquish a dragon was never about saving a maiden or vanquishing evil; it was always a quest to conquer love.

The stories were originally designed to illustrate how important the heart is and why the purest love needs the protection of dragon energy (the maiden who lives with the dragon in the wilderness). The knight or prince goes on a journey of bravery and self-discovery to overcome his fears of being vulnerable and worthy of true love.

Of course, in the dark ages it became perverted, instead illustrating the need to dominate and control a partner. The wild feminine was routinely feared and portrayed as both helpless and suspicious. If it was allowed to roam free on its own it would either become too powerful and destructive, or greedy and self-indulgent. Only the passive and unconscious feminine was deemed “correct” because it could be dominated and subjugated.

Dragon guides call us back to our true hearts, especially our feminine sides (and we ALL have a feminine aspect).

If you’re in need of heart healing, or opening the heart chakra, a dragon guide can help you. There is no purer heart or larger love free from judgement that what you will find in a dragon guide.

I know that in the past I thought I was doing ok, even though I had been emotionally starved in relationships for such a long time, but I knew that I hadn’t connected to my dragon guide for a while. When I eventually re-connected with him, the grief which poured out of me was almost overwhelming. I had been holding it back because I didn’t want to deal with it. Deep down I knew it was extremely painful.

Releasing my pain with a creature who unconditionally loves all aspects of me, including my deepest scars, is very cathartic. It can also provide clarity if you’re in a situation where you’re not sure if it’s real love or not. If another person is causing you to doubt yourself or experience emotional torment, knowing the opposite energy is very important.

Dragon spirits are a safe space and a protective energy. They can support you during your most difficult times.

Don’t be afraid to reach out if you’re in need. You’ll be surprised at the joy available for you in the astral.

What is Grounding and Why do we Need it?

Whether you are on a spiritual path or just trying to live a regular urban life, we all need grounding more than ever before. Why is that? Because we have never been more disconnected from nature than we are in this day and age.

Everything about modern life is designed to separate us from nature, seemingly for our own good if you consider advances in hygiene and medicine. However, becoming overzealous in the war against microbes has left us weaker in our natural defenses and less robust overall as well as creating a plastic-filled throw-away society which is destroying the planet.

Grounding is more than just meditating on a rock under a tree.

It needs to be a way of life which puts us back into the realm of nature instead of segregating us and creating distance.

One of the big hazards in following a spiritual path is further disconnection from the 3D and natural realm. This can lead to all kinds of mental health problems.

Something which I see frequently when people start out in spiritual practice is they start rejecting the simple needs and enjoyment of life because they’re not “enlightened” enough to be valuable. There can be an over-balance into the higher mind and super-consciousness which creates distance from the physical self and starts turning things into a hierarchy, which they’re not.

Higher mind is not superior to playing with puppies. Super consciousness is not superior to brewing tea. They’re all part of a bigger picture where we become holistic beings who’re in touch with our bodies and accepting of our failings while also striving to improve ourselves through self-reflection and communicating with the higher realms.

Grounding itself is a holistic practice where we observe the moment instead of just floating through life in the thought-realm, or emotional realm. Enjoy that piece of fruit. Luxuriate in that bathtub. Appreciate the shade of a tree on a sunny day.

Practicing mindfulness or grounding doesn’t have to be complex, you just have to start remembering to savour the moments as they happen.

Twin Flames, Magnetic Torsion Fields and Quantum Entanglement

How Twin Flames are Energetically Linked

If you are a rare individual who has a twin flame during this lifetime, it can be the most challenging relationship you’ll ever have. A lot of twins can’t manage to get themselves together enough to actually establish a relationship or “union” or will spend years resisting the connection.

But why?

Why is the connection both so intense and undeniable, yet impossible to bring to fruition?

It’s unclear if every soul has a twin, or if this is as rare as physical twin births, but what is clear is that very few incarnate simultaneously during the same lifetime.

Most people won’t experience this and unless you have, it’s impossible to comprehend the connection. From an outside perspective it looks irrational at best and toxic at worst.

From my own twin flame experience and subsequent research I have come to understand a few things:

1. Your connection is based on the relationship you have with yourself.

2. You cannot escape the connection, whether you’re together or not.

3. You will always be drawn back together.

4. As individuals you are powerful manifestors

5. Other people are always drawn to you or repelled by you (rarely a neutral reaction)

6. When twins are together, their energy is phenomenal to observe.

7. A twin will feel like home and being in their presence will have a calming effect on both of them.

8. Being separated is possible but stressful.

9. They can trigger your trauma and shadow like no one else.

These are common signs of meeting your twin, but why is this connection so different to any other?

Quantum Entanglement

If you have never heard of this phenomenon, you can do plenty of further research, as it’s a fascinating subject on its own.

A basic explanation of this field of study within physics is this;

Two particles fused into one, when separated once more, still behave as though they are still one particle and whatever stimulation is given to one will be seen in both regardless of distance and time.

On a quantum level they are permanently one energy, forever.

How does this apply to twins?

A pair of twin flames were created from the same over-soul and like physical twins the egg split to create two separate individuals who share energetic DNA. Twin flames appear to have been conjoined at the heart, which makes their separation difficult yet necessary for growth and development.

However, they will eternally feel the absence, unless they can be in the same energetic space.

Having been one on an energetic level, twins can find one another or share emotions whether they’re aware of the other person or not. Twins may go through ups and downs in life simultaneously.

Unlike other strong soul relationships where you also feel the other person, time and distance do not affect the connection.

You never get to the “fade” phase with your twin because they literally have the other half of your heart.

In a positive way, one twin can do a lot of self-healing which benefits both of them. On the negative side, if one twin resists healing then the other can be subject to bouts of depression and emotional turmoil in response.

Again, this will happen whether they’re together or not.

Neither of you can escape it or control it.

Magnetic Torsion Fields

Research has documented that the heart, whether human or animal, is an electromagnetic organ which emits a magnetic field around the body.

To learn more, research the Heart Math Institute, you won’t regret it.

When two hearts are energetically linked, they produce a torsion field. Most relationships require upkeep to maintain this connection and if the connection is severed in the 3D world, it will eventually fade in the energetic realm.

Not so with twins. Even before both of them are born, let alone meet in the 3D, this magnetic field exists.

It allows them to remain connected no matter what and to find one another even if they’re unconscious of the others existence.

The side effect of this field is that twins are highly magnetic people as individuals. They find manifesting easy and can draw almost anything they desire towards them.

Other people unconsciously pick up this field and will either be heavily drawn to a twin or repelled by them, depending on that person’s heart.

Twins expose the hearts of others, whether positive or negative. It’s very hard to hide your true nature from a twin for regular people.

However the twin themselves can be a master chameleon, often hiding their own true nature because it is invariably an essence of pure love. They learn to be secretive as a way of protecting themselves.

Because of the magnetic field they generate as a pair, they can attract energy vampires too easily.

A result of growing up so powerful but unaware of why, can lead to things like a huge ego, psychological trauma, mistrust of others, or serious detachment and depression.

Twins generally have hard childhoods.

But it isn’t the individual who is this powerful, but actually the creation of an electromagnetic love torsion field which is created by the both of them.

If twins ever achieve union in the 3D they can generate a really powerful force which will propel them into higher levels of manifestation and consciousness.

The trick is getting into sync with one another.

Loving that other person isn’t enough.

The Twin Flame Mirror

The other phenomenon common to twins is mirroring each other.

Your twin doesn’t just have the other half of your heart, they also show you your own. In the same way that twins expose others true hearts, they will expose each other’s as well.

This can be very confronting for someone who is used to easily hiding and seeing through others. Suddenly all their wounds are exposed. Their true self is revealed.

If they haven’t been dealing with their trauma beforehand, it will ultimately repel each other. Separation is pretty much guaranteed.

The only way to get past that point is to work on themselves as an individual and to integrate the shadow. They must also be able to love themselves in their authentic version, not the egoic version.

Twins have huge potential as a unit, but the road to get there is hard and requires both to work at it.

However, if the twins can make it, they can redefine love for generations to come.

Destiny versus Free Will

Are you at the mercy of the universe, or are you in control of your own fate?

This is a hugely charged issue, where people will become very emotional about their respective viewpoints.

Some are strictly in the camp of God/Universe is in charge and everything in your life is destiny. This mindset is comforting on the level that it removes responsibility and uncertainty from the equation and places it into a higher power parental figure who knows what’s best for you and will provide everything you need.

This viewpoint tends to break down in the face of massive injustice and tragedy because it doesn’t fit in with a benevolent higher power. The potential to lose faith and to question the meaning of life teeters on a knifes edge depending on what destiny deals you.

The polar opposite view is that we’re so in charge of our own destiny that we can somehow “control” our lives. If something happens to us, we have in some way chosen it.

Again, this crumbles under pressure when faced with abuse, poverty and tragedy.

So where does the truth lie?

It lies somewhere in the middle, in a more neutral space away from high emotions which are always based on fear and survival.

There is higher power. There is collective consciousness. And there is free will.

The universe gives us tools and gifts to help us navigate our lives. In free will we can ignore or reject them.

The universe presents opportunities and lessons in our path which we can exercise free will and either grasp, grow from or ignore.

Developing intuition and a higher level of consciousness allows us to perceive the universe at work and make better choices accordingly. There is guidance available if you’re willing to listen and simultaneously release control issues but also step up into a proactive mindset.

The issue with polarising your opinion is that you either become too passive or too controlling. Neither is healthy. Instead you need to know when you’re in control and when you’re not.

You also need to be able to acknowledge when your choices or lack of choosing has led to a certain situation.

Sometimes you have to take the steering wheel and sometimes you have to allow the universe to drive.

Then there is the element of the collective.

Other people also have free will and can make choices to either operate from a higher level of consciousness, or react from fear and neediness.

This is something we always need to keep in mind and take into consideration before we act. Discernment is key to navigating the realm of relationships so that we don’t allow others to dictate our lives or vice versa.

You can’t control others or all circumstances but you’re not necessarily at their mercy either.

We all have the ability to tap into guidance and navigate the minefield of life to find the sweet spots or create them.

So go out there and be a powerful little co-creator!

How to Know if You’ve Been Cursed

…and how to Break It.

When it comes to energetic manipulation, some individuals are less scrupulous than others. If you’re dealing with someone who is prepared to use dark magic in the pursuit of their desires, or if you encounter a dark entity in your environment, there can be a lot of confusion surrounding what is real and what isn’t.

Some energy attacks are quite obvious and ballsy. They really don’t care if you perceive them and their true intentions or not. A full-frontal attack can be a way to inspire fear in a target in an attempt to energetically overwhelm them.

However, there are more subtle and log-term energy manipulations which utilise illusion and confusion instead.

A curse or a possession relies on the subject abdicating their own sovereign free will to another. This manipulation relies on evoking a range of emotions in the target such as fear or sympathy. They will either make you their ally, or make you fear their actions. In this way, a person may actively participate in their own subjugation.

In fact, a curse and a possession cannot take place without the willing consent of the victim.

If you, or someone you know, is under energetic attack, there may be a general sense of confusion about whether the oppressor actually knows best. The victim will stop trusting their own judgement. Even the people around them might not be able to perceive what’s really going on.

This is why lightworkers are such a vital part of the collective energy. These people generally have an innate ability to shine a light into situations, break illusions, and expose truths wherever they go.

That’s often why they experience a lot of manipulation themselves. A person who is operating from the shadows will try to bamboozle and undermine a lightworker’s intuition and sense of self in order to remain concealed in their darkness.

Sometimes when a person is operating from their shadows and they come into contact with a lightworker, they’ll instinctively recoil from them or become very aggressive without any provocation. A lot of empath’s I’ve met have similar stories about triggering people without even saying or doing anything.

Ok, but how do I know?

Now that we’ve addressed the who, how and why, it’s time to explore the subtle ways of assessing things for yourself.

First up, as an empath you’ll need to be working on your boundaries. This is the fundamental core of being able to separate your own energy from another person.

The basic technique is to pause whenever you feel strong emotions for no reason, check in with yourself and ask the question; “is this mine, or does it belong to someone else?”

You may find that at times it’s caused by triggers which bring up past wounds, but as you develop the skill of sorting what’s yours and what isn’t, you’ll be able to energetically trace the thread back to it’s source in order to know where it comes from. You can then very politely return it to the owner.

In a full-frontal attack, knowing the source is the easy part. In a more subtle manipulation it can be tricky to untangle yourself because the energy may have become intertwined and latched into your system. A cord-cutting ritual is very beneficial in these circumstances.

Some illusions are more complex than others, and the previous technique may not work, but the basis of all illusion is lies. This means that you can employ the resonance technique instead to lift the veil.

Resonance Technique

This is an extremely powerful tool for exposing shadow energy manipulations.

If you’re a witch who operates in truth magic, or if you’re a natural lightworker, this may be something you do without knowing what to call it.

Basically, truths and lies have different energy frequencies which can be picked up in the body when they are spoken aloud. Lies feel like a jangle of nerves similar to hearing a high-pitched scraping sound. Truth has a peace and clarity to it which are undeniable. A blending of the two will feel like confusion and you may find yourself tilting your head like a dog listening to a whistle.

However, in order to perceive this resonance, you have to speak out loud to another person about whatever subject it is.

A good example was when a business I used regularly changed premises and the new digs were haunted as hell. I would feel malevolent eyes on me whenever I waited in a certain area of the building. This went on for months and eventually I asked the owner about it, since we knew enough about each other that it wouldn’t be weird. She said she was aware of it, but had no idea what it was or how to get rid of it.

As we talked out loud about the entity, I could suddenly perceive it when I had never been able to before.

That old saying; “Speak of the devil and he will appear” is actually more true than people realise, but not in the way that we usually think.

It’s not so much conjuring as exposing.

Speaking about something aloud or sharing a secret with another person, even over text message, can start to expose the truth.

Sometimes, when we’re involved with toxic people they will insist on secrecy, or they will shame or inspire fear to force someone into not speaking out about their experiences. This silencing is both the lock and the key to freedom from an energetic manipulation.

Remaining silent will prolong the entrapment.

Speaking out will begin the process of liberation and illumination.

When it comes to helping another person to free themselves, this is the biggest hurdle. They won’t want to talk about what they’re going through.

On some level, they may know that speaking out will break the bond and they may feel frightened of losing that attachment, as toxic as it might be. However, it may be the only way of freeing them and is usually the most potent way to begin cutting cords.

Never be afraid to speak your truth.

Remember, a lie will never survive the blinding light of day.

What is the Twin Flame Soul Contract?

You may have heard of soul contracts before, but why do we have them and how do they apply to the twin flame phenomenon?

Firstly, for those who aren’t familiar with soul contracts, they’re agreements made in the energetic fields before incarnation in order to either strengthen soul bonds or release them.

In other words, they clear your karma.

How does that work?

Well, in past lives we all interact with different souls in order to learn valuable lessons about ourselves and each other. Those interactions, if they are not resolved during that lifetime will create a bond between those two (or more) souls which is still there long after the incarnation is over.

Some bonds are beneficial to us and constitute our soul family.

Other bonds are formed by trauma and they create toxic self identity and beliefs.

A soul contract is when you agree to cross paths again in another incarnation in order to release the karma or the bond and move past that lesson into a better vibration.

Those are karmic relationships where the energetic resonance is misaligned or mismatched but somehow irresistible all the same.

How do twin flames fit into all of this?

For one thing, your twin will be your energetic match and mirror image at the same time. A twin is the best way to see yourself more clearly.

Sometimes that triggers our internal wounds centred around the ego and self identity. Areas where we either let ourselves down or are ashamed of or dislike within ourselves. That person will reflect that aspect of your personality in confronting ways.

What twins sometimes loose sight of is that your twin also reflects your best aspects. Your true inner beauty can be seen in that person. If you’re struggling with healing the self, this will trigger issues around worthiness.

If you’re not worthy of your twin, or reject them as unworthy, that’s something you need to work on.

And that’s the crux of the twin soul contract.

You’re not here to save each other. You’re meant to be in one another’s lives when you are done with settling for less from other people.

The twin flame promise is this:

“I will be there when you’re ready for real love.”

Only when you’re done with meagre, fake crap based on shallow and needy connections will you be ready for twin flame union.

Are you ready to offer genuine love, unhampered by conditions and bartering? Are you secure enough within yourself to receive that kind of love without suspicion or fear?

Can you see that other person and yourself as a truly wonderful being worthy of being loved wholeheartedly purely because you both exist?

If you can transform your heart into a space of sanctuary for yourself and your counterpart, you’ll be ready to love no matter what life throws in your path.