There’s a lot of dangerous mythology about twin flames which I want to talk about in this article. Most people think it’s “divine love”, which it is, but that’s an overly simplistic definition.
I refer to “twin flames” as “twin souls” because it takes the romantic charge out of it and gives a more accurate picture.
At the dawn of the universe, mother-consciousness gave birth to a myriad of souls. Some were singular but some split within their embryonic sack and came out as dualists twins. Their energy is the same, but opposite.
Like quantum entanglement they can never be truly separate. They vibrate on the same frequency and mirror one another in an endless dance seeking reunion and wholeness.
This doesn’t mean that free-will isn’t also in play, not to mention karmic debts which have to be settled or hard lessons to learn.
Coming into union before all of that has been processed can damage the relationship a great deal.
This person reflects many aspects of yourself including the bits you don’t like. It’s then your job to look at that within yourself to heal it or just accept it.
You must love yourself unconditionally, faults and all, before the relationship will work.
This can lead to multiple phases of “dark night of the soul” as you process your triggers.
It’s a challenging task for anyone, and yet your souls chose to undertake it for a reason.
Balance, integration and a return to unconditional love are the purpose of twin flames. Re-defining what it means to be there for someone while still being there for yourself can change the game for how we all look at love.
Replacing neediness, possessiveness, restrictions, distrust and fear with their opposing energies is the only way forward.
If you can put yourself first and set boundaries, yet remain open-hearted and loving to another person despite choices they might make, you will discover how much capacity your heart really has.
And isn’t that the only thing that really matters in the end?