What most people think of as a “twin-flame” is really more like a soul-mate or even a karmic relationship. Sometimes the easiest way to define something is to describe what it isn’t…
There’s nothing wrong with karmic or soul-mate relationships. They’re extremely important in their own ways and a soul-mate is potentially more fulfilling and stable than a twin-flame for long-term commitment.
If you’re looking for an easy, happy relationship, stick with a soul-mate. This is someone you can bond with, feel at ease with, and build a regular life with.
Karmic relationships are those stressful, anxious, often toxic relationships which are there to show you what love is NOT. Sometimes we have to go through a load of crap in order to realise our own worth and what is acceptable to us or not.
The karmic relationship is a valuable learning tool, but don’t waste too much time on it because it can detain you from real love.
Then there’s the twin flame.
This person is essentially the twin/mirror of your soul. You were conceived together and formed in the one womb as a complimentary pair of souls destined to be intertwined no matter how far you go away from each other, or how you develop independently.
This is by no means an easy relationship, and it is certainly not a guaranteed relationship.
A lot of people who have met their twin initially expect that this is the love of their lives come at last, and in a way this is true. You’ll love them, whether you like it or not, and you’ll love them forever.
Does this mean that you spend the rest of your lives in a committed relationship?
That leads me to the most important part of a twin flame relationship: you need to let go of expectations from this person. They’re on their own journey and it might include you, but it might not, and that’s ok. If you can allow them to be themselves in whatever form that is, then it means you can love yourself enough to do the same for you.
There’s nothing wrong with not being a couple. You might just have a best friend, or you may both repel each other by mirroring your crap to the point where you can’t exist in the same city, let alone the same house.
How this plays out depends on how willing you both are to face your shadows and heal yourselves. They might be completely unwilling to do this. That’s ok. You can do it for yourself and use what you learn from meeting them to help you do it.
If you’re on this soul-path, let me know in the comments or join the Facebook group to connect with others for support. The greatest lesson of the twin flame is to understand what love means and how to live it wholeheartedly.